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Kimberly Cardeccia

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Published about 1 month ago • 1 min read

Hello my friend,

This month, we have been talking about what happens when pressure starts getting mixed into our interactions with our horses.

The pressure to do something.

The pressure to fix the moment.

The pressure to know exactly what to do next.

When our horse is worried, disconnected, or having trouble receiving what we are asking, it can be easy to feel like we need to have the whole answer right away.

But we do not.

We do not have to get it all figured out at once.

We can come back to what is actually happening.

We can notice what we know. We can notice what we do not know yet. We can let our horse’s response give us more information before deciding what it means.

And then we can choose the next step from there.

That does not mean there are no boundaries, no direction, or no learning.

It means we do not have to organize the whole moment around getting our horse to comply—or around proving that we know exactly what to do.

We can return to presence.

We can return to the relationship.

We can return to the next clear step that we and our horse can actually meet.

That is the practice: not having every answer, but staying with what is true long enough to notice what is needed and choose the next step with your horse.

On Tuesday, I will be beginning my two-call live Zoom workshop, Becoming the Leader Your Horse Can Trust.

Over those two evenings, we will look at how to see what may be happening with your horse, how to stay connected to yourself in the hard moments, and how to lead in a way that builds partnership and trust.

If this month’s emails have been naming something you have been carrying with your horse, I would love to have you join us.

August 25 + 26 at 7 PM Eastern

Replay included · $11

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Wishing you many bright moments,

Kim

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